I am such an advocate for using one’s voice. I believe that it gives you the power to be who you are, say what you think, and proclaim whatever smart or silly things you feel like. It is one of our basic rights as a human and a citizen of the US. It is unique, like a thumbprint and most importantly it is yours.
When I was fighting every day not to lose my voice before the surgery and patiently and astutely regaining it after, I vowed that I would never let his happen again. That I would always care for my voice and let it be free and open and healthy.
Yet, what I didn’t realize is while an injury, acid reflux disease, or a cyst can steal your voice away, so can a human being. They can threaten that thumbprint, your 1st amendment, your right to say the silliest of shit or the most profound of thoughts.
Recognize the people you surround yourself with. Make sure that your loved ones actually love you back and aren’t using or “utilizing” you. Remember that your past doesn’t have to shape your future and if someone makes you feel shameful about your truth, then they are not worth your time. Most importantly, make sure they value your words and what you say to them, even if they don’t agree. You have a right to all of your thoughts and if someone is constantly telling you that you’re wrong, ask them what they are hiding- what is it that scares them so much about themselves that they need to take your words away from you.